Often change can be exciting. But change can also bring up resistance. This can come in big and small ways. I have noticed resistance to accomplishing even the simplest tasks. Tasks that would officially close the door to the old way of being. Because no matter how excited we are about new changes, letting go and stepping into the unknown is scary.
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Why are we so resistant to change? Even when it is positive?
I became curious and met with my own coach to explore what the heck was going on. What I discovered was so much bigger and deeper than I had originally expected.
The outcome of that session was around making choices that were in line with my desires and how through those choices, I subconsciously felt I was alienating others.
Let's be honest, as much as we all want to step into our own, sometimes leaving things, places, or people behind can be lonely.
Most people don't dare to move into a life that suits their desires, because by doing that, you separate yourself from others. You make a choice that others aren't making which makes you different and what we all really want is to feel connected. And yet we are each unique.
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We all have unique marching orders. It is through that unique thread color that we each hold that from a million, trillion, billion miles away paints a beautiful, cohesive and connected tapestry.
Embrace the resistance. Make friends with the fear of:
- Becoming and embodying a new way of being.
- Breaking new ground.
- Doing things differently.
- Honoring your desires over the perceived desires of others.
- Making different choices than your family, coworkers and friends.
Let me give you some examples of what I am talking about.
My business has changed over the last year from coaching individuals to executive coaching and leadership development with companies. I get to ponder and play in areas like executive presence, strategic thinking and thought leadership in developing the skills of their current and future leaders.
When I was doing career coaching, I found that the clients I most enjoyed working with the ones who were pushing the envelope, taking risks and were passionate about creating change in the world.
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As a part of this transition into my own thought leadership, I found myself doing all of the prep work and yet when it came time to pull the trigger and commit, I made up a million excuses.
So I decided to make embrace the resistance and move forward anyway.
- Getting rid of my office spaces because I now work at companies
- Sending an email update to everyone to let them know of the changes
- Hiring an executive assistant
I challenge you to do the same. Each step into living the life you want is a win no matter how big or small the change. Join me in celebrating changemakers and become your own thought leader. Share your wins with me on twitter #embracingchange.
Take that pull you feel and make it bigger than the resistance you feel.
Hop into a sailboat that goes out into the distance without completely knowing where you are going, why you are going or who you are going with. Follow the pull that you feel to get into that boat by overcoming the resistance you feel.
That is thought leadership.
That is courage.
And that is available to each and every one of us.